‘Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility’.
~ Sigmund Freud
What about you, do you value FREEDOM? I’m not taking about existing outside the confines of a prison cell. I’m talking about financial freedom, spiritual freedom, emotional freedom, social freedom, creative freedom, and time freedom.
If you’re anything like me then I’ve no doubt you value these things. But why is it that freedom pulls so tightly at out hearts? As Brendan Burchard put it ‘It is because freedom is tightly bound to the human desire for ascension – our natural drive to rise from our circumstances and actualize our goals, our potential, our highest self.
Yet as Sigmund Freud so aptly put it in the intro to this piece ‘freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility’. Put differently all the spoils of freedom go to the man or woman that takes 100% responsibility for their life.
Ultimately the size of your bank balance, the level of your debt, the quality of your relationship, the depth of your happiness, the level of your health; all depend on you taking responsibility.
In order to take responsibility and ultimately gain true freedom it is imperative that you take the following 9 steps:
1. Realize Nobody Cares But You
While this one might sound harsh, and of course you no doubt have plenty of people that love you nobody really cares about your level of ‘FREEDOM’. Even those who love you most consign your misery to the basket that says ‘well that’s life’. In effect nobody is going to come along and hand you everything you desire on a silver platter. Nobody is going to clear your debt, write your books, build your business, or workout for you in the gym.
Realizing only you can make these things happen is the first step to taking responsibility. You need to focus on the mantra; ‘if it’s to be, it’s up to me.’
2. Don’t Blame Anyone Or Anything
Everyone is happy to take credit for the good things in their life, but quick to dismiss the bad as a product of something or someone else. They blame their negative circumstances on the economy, their boss, their significant other, the stock market, or just plain old bad luck. The truth of the matter is that virtually everything that shows up in your life is a product of a decision you made in the past.
Poor health is usually a product of excess calorie consumption, lack of exercise and the side effects of tobacco or alcohol abuse. Debt is usually a product of expenditure outstripping income. Business failure is usually a product of inability to generate adequate cash flow through insufficient sales. So realize when you point the finger at someone else, three fingers are pointing back at you.
3. Learn From Your Mistakes
As stated in the last point people like to blame others for their mistakes. However the enlightened person always examines their mistakes and wonders what they can learn from them. When you take responsibility for your mistakes, you are less likely to repeat those mistakes again.
Those that blame others for their mistakes will continue to make the same mistakes perpetually. In effect if you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.
4. Realize Every Effect Has A Cause
You need to acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you. You are the cause of all your experiences. Every action you take produces a result. The effect always has a cause and the causes you experience are an effect of the decisions you have made. When you realize this you understand it is imperative to take responsibility for everything that shows up in your life.
5. Harness The Power Of Universal Laws
If you don’t take responsibility, then you use universal principles such as ‘The Law Of Attraction’ against yourself. If you perpetuate a negative attitude in everything you do or say, then you will attract negative outcomes.
Conversely if you perpetuate a positive attitude in everything you do or say then you will attract positive outcomes. In effect your external world is always a reflection of your internal thoughts. Your mindset and attitude are your responsibility, and they ultimately determine everything that happens to you in life.
6. Don’t React, RESPOND
You are responsible for your emotions and how you engage your external environment. If provoked by negative external stimuli most people REACT angrily. Yet the successful person has the wherewithal to take a deep breath, assess the situation and respond in a calm and measured manner.
This act of ‘responding’ as opposed to ‘reacting’ will always defuse dangerous / negative situations.
7. Stop Making Excuses
A big part of taking responsibility is refusing to make excuses. In effect excuses are a form of self-sabotage. They are the scapegoat for poor execution or the lack there of. In life successful people get results, while average people make excuses. So don’t be average. Refuse to make excuses.
8. Turn Should Do’s into Must Do’s
Average people say I ‘should’ go to the gym, I ‘should’ save money, I ‘should’ write that book, I ‘should’ start that business, I ‘should’ set aside more free time to spend with my family.
Successful people take responsibility and turn ‘should do’s’ into ‘must do’s’. In fact the word ‘should’ ought to be extricated from the English language. It’s in the same category as that terrible word ‘try’. In reality ‘should’ and ‘try’ are a fallacy. You either ‘do’ or you ‘don’t’. ‘Try’ and ‘should’ are excuses to fail.
So resolve today to take all the important things in your life that you know you need to do and move them out of the ‘should do’ basket and into the ‘must do’ basket.
9. STOP Complaining, Make Changes
When you learn to take responsibility you realize that complaining is a futile endeavor. Complaining is a waste of energy as it changes nothing. Realize that the circumstances you complain about are situations you can change. Just plot a course in a new direction and take action.
So if you’re out of shape then join a gym and commit to going 5 days a week. If you hate your job, get out there and get another one. If you want to start a business then save 6-12 months worth of living expenses and get out there and start one.
Yes all of these things involve RISK but success always lies at the far side of risk. Risk and gain always go hand in hand.
10. Failure Is Feedback
Taking responsibility is realizing that there is no such thing as failure, just feedback. If you FAIL at anything all it means is that the actions you took were not aligned with the result you wanted. Take different actions and you’ll produce different results. Keep tweaking what you are doing until you will eventually get the results you seek.
Today’s episode of ACCELERATE will have a dramatic impact on your life success, if you take the time to implement the strategies disclosed.
In order to close out today’s episode consider this great quote from Jim Rohn: ‘You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.’
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